Healing has so many layers. We all heal in different ways. I recall a place in my heart that needed healing. I was stuck, because I was waiting on the person to do right by me. I was waiting on some type of remorse, but it never came, even when I confronted them, it still never came. The thing is, my equation for healing was all off, it went like this,

Someone hurt me + I confront them = you having remorse and apologize and make things right again. Done, makes sense right? No… what if they never apologize, what if there is never any remorse, so I stay in my hurt?

Absolutely not, there has to be a healthier equation. Here’s what works for me:

Someone hurts me + me confronting the situation, if needed + me dealing with my pain with, love, God and not fear = a healing process.

Now this doesn’t mean we don’t work through differences, set up boundaries, if necessary, get help from our support group, we just don’t leave our healing to another person. No one is responsible for my healing. They may play a part, but the person that gives the surgeon the scalpel is not the one that’s operating on the heart. That is always between God and I.