Learning and Unlearning
We are always in the process of learning. From the time we are out of the womb, we are being taught. It is a beautiful thing. It is how we grow, how we know what do and what not to do. We learn how to talk, walk, eat, play and take care of ourselves. In our nature, once we learn something, a way of living, we pretty much stick with it, even if it doesn’t serve our good or the good of others. The way life evolves is through, how often we unlearning.
I was the rebellious kid growing up, or at least that is how I was labeled, because I questioned everything. I wanted to know why things are done a certain way and why can they not be done a differently.
I was told many times as child to shut up and do what I was told. The truth is, I just wanted to know why the world works this way and if this was the only option. One of the greatest “Whispers of Silence” for me was when that 5 year old Lisa came back in my mind and started questioning the way of living, again. It was alarming, since I was on the path of stepping away from my upbringing, the way people perceived me, my own perception and even my religion. I began to explore the questions, “Why do you think this way and where did this thinking come from?” and, “Does it serve the good?” When we examine the origin of our thinking, it can expose our very souls, heal our wounds, unblock what’s holding us back from what we truly desire. It can change our lives forever. It can show you that this was never your truth, its service for your life has expired, and/or that you need to learn something new.
A huge sign that what you are learning is not serving you, is when we are going around in circles and ending up in the same situations, realizing that you have gotten nowhere. There is obviously a block and most of the time, it’s something we learned long ago that we are trying to fit into our lives and it doesn’t fit anymore; maybe it never did and we just learned to cope. There is nothing wrong with unlearning the things we were taught when it doesn’t serve the highest good of all. There are many things I have unlearned, from being a wife, a mother, a friend, a savvy business woman, how to follow my dreams and just be the Lisa that God created me to be. I am always learning, but with an open heart and keeping myself aligned with what is true for me. What does God want for me? Too often, we move from a place of what we think people expect of us and not from what we are called to do and be. The best unlearning questions I have asked myself over the course of many years , after starting the practice of silence are these:
1. Does this serve God and the highest good of all?
2.Why am I here?
3.What is my part?
4. Is this true?
Our strength is found between the spaces of surrender, not in the physical. The truth is not always what we understand it to be. Stay open, see the truth and ask God, “What does this mean for me personally? What is it that I need to know?” The understanding of truth is what matters the most. It is what moves us closer to God and our destiny. The lack of understanding does the very opposite. This is not a religious statement, but a spiritual one, and there is a difference between the two.