“Love is not complicated, we are.”
Lisa Washington

I wrote this 6 years ago, a quote from my book Whispers of Silence.
But here is the heart and my place of growth from which this quote was birth.
“Love is not complicated, we are” — speaks to a profound truth about human nature and relationships.

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Love in Its Purest Form
At its core, love is simple. It’s a natural expression of connection, care, compassion, and presence. Love flows easily when it’s not obstructed — like a river unblocked by debris. It is generous, forgiving, and life-giving. In the purest sense, love doesn’t require conditions or performative acts. It simply is.
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Where the Complication Begins
The complication arises not from love itself but from us — our fears, insecurities, expectations, past wounds, and unmet needs. We filter love through personal experiences, emotional baggage, and societal narratives that tell us how love should look, feel, or behave.
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We complicate love when we:
• Try to control or possess it.
• Attach our self-worth to how it’s received.
• Use it as a transaction rather than a gift.
• Expect it to heal what we haven’t faced within ourselves.

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The Inner Mirror
Often, what we call “complicated love” is a reflection of our internal conflict. The ways we resist vulnerability, avoid emotional honesty, or fear abandonment all shape the way we give and receive love. In this way, we are the ones who bring complexity to something that, at its essence, is beautifully uncomplicated.
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The Invitation
I feel this quote invites us to pause and reflect: What if love isn’t the problem? What if the real work is in clearing the clutter within ourselves so we can allow love to do what it does best — connect, heal, and transform?
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It’s not about simplifying love; it’s about simplifying ourselves — returning to authenticity, practicing self-awareness, and learning to show up without the masks.
Love and Peace 🦋